Do you feel successful? Lately, I haven’t. I have been feeling down about where my life has led me. I worked so hard to get my business degree and then later went on to get my Human Resources Professional Designation. And as I worked in the Human Resources field, I went back to school again to get my Provincial Instructors Diploma.Continue reading “Do You Feel Successful?”
It’s been a while since I’ve written on my blog. I stopped because I got scared. Some people told me I shouldn’t be sharing personal things to the world, that it will damage my family and reputation. Honestly, I didn’t want it to affect me or my actions, but it did.Continue reading “It’s not a Coincidence”
Today was one of those days that felt crushing. The heaviness of financial burden and health concerns for family members consumed me. One of those days where any little thing, like someone saying hello to you in a comforting voice, would bring embarrassing tears.Continue reading “What to do on those BAD days!”
“If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for my sake, you will save it.” Matthew 16:25 (NLT)
“Will you reverse your vasectomy so we can have another baby?” I sobbed.
“No way! Are you crazy? We already have three and aren’t going for a fourth. We decided I would get a vasectomy for a reason.”
I watched my daughter Thea, who has Mosaic Down Syndrome, work hard to learn how to read. Everyday she picked up a book and practiced. I would always find her off in a corner reading by herself or to her younger siblings. And everyday I saw an improvement.
Over less than a year, Thea went from not being able to read at all to reading at the end of a grade 1 level (she just graduated kindergarten). Seeing her determination and drive reminded me of how important it is to not give up.
But we all have moments where we feel like giving up, Thea was no exception. It’s hard to keep going when everything you try doesn’t seem to work and rejection feels constant.
But don’t do it! Don’t give up! And here’s why…
- There’s a reason why you started it: Think back to when you made that decision to start. What happened? What made you think you were meant to do it? Did an opportunity open up? Did you pray about it and felt God calling you to do it? Did you read the bible and a verse stuck out at you? Something was there and that’s why you started. That reason was a good one, don’t loose sight of it.
- The reward is on the other side of your hardship: Hardship, trials and rejection are going to happen. And if that’s where you are today, know that every successful person has gone through it. And if you can get past the hardship, you will reap the most satisfying reward. Keep at it; plant the idea in your head that there is no other option. Take a breath and pray about it. Then only focus on your next best move. What action can you take today that will move you towards your end goal. Don’t look at the whole picture and get swallowed up by anxiety. You don’t have to figure it all out. God’s got that already done for you. Focus on your next best move and do it.
- You may not get another chance: Timing is everything and if God is calling you to do it now, you may not get another chance. So take it. God’s the most powerful ally you could ever have. So don’t doubt him or question the goal. Just do it.
- You will always wonder what if: Ask yourself this, if I give-up and stop today, will I wonder in a few years or ten years from now, what if? If so, then it’s not time to give-up. Keep going. You can do this!
- Discipline is the key to change: Change is never easy, so without discipline it will never happen. You may think I suck at disciplining myself. I tried once before and failed. Well, think of it this way. Everyday you have a routine, you get-up, get dressed, get the kids ready, go to work etc. You discipline yourself to do those things because they are important and necessary. So you CAN do discipline, you just need to change your perspective. Decide today that the goal you are trying to achieve is necessary and important. Add it to part of your daily routine. Half the battle is believing you can do it, the other half is taking action.
- It’s worth it: Visualize your end goal. Why are you doing this? What is it that you are trying to achieve? Is it starting your own company? Then picture yourself owning and running that company. Is it loosing weight? Then visualize yourself in the body that you want (but make it a healthy one). Solidify in your mind your “Why”. Then think about that every time you want to give up. If you have a clear picture of why you are doing it, then you will find the drive and determination to keep going. Knowing your “why” will help you to work through any barriers that come your way.
I knew I was in a bad relationship, but I chose to stay. I clung onto the hope that it would get better. And it did for a while, until the next big argument happened and the cycle would start all over again. The one where we would make up, it would be good for a while and then another huge argument would implode.Continue reading “5 Barriers That Stop You From Making Positive Changes In Your Life”